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A Happy Home

Allah the Almighty says (meaning): {And Allah has made for you from your homes a place of rest.}[Quran 16:80]

You have spoken the truth, O our Lord! The house is a place of rest, stability, comfort, reassurance, security and tranquility in which we live and with which we protect ourselves from the heat of summer and the cold of winter. It is also our refuge in which we take refuge after the troubles and difficulties of the day.
If the nest of a small bird is its shelter, its place of rest and its reassuring refuge, it would be more worthy of the man to make his home a place of happiness and a source of pleasure. A house is not only walls, furniture and linens, but it is also a place of worship, an institute and a place of conviviality and comfort. The couple fill him with love and affection. Tranquility, calm and stability shade it.

In the Muslim home, material and sensual rest is combined with spiritual and emotional rest; so the house is complete and balanced. Also, Allah the Almighty has made the house a place of rest for the couple; He made the husband a source of tranquility for his wife and wife a source of tranquility for her husband. Allah the Almighty says (meaning): {And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.} [Quran 30:21]

Thus, marriage is a source of tranquility and homes are places of rest – a favor from Allah the Almighty that should be appreciated, maintained and preserved.

Some of us might ask ourselves, “Why a Muslim home? Is there a difference between a Muslim home and a non-Muslim home?

Without a doubt, the Muslim home differs from all others. Its inhabitants carry in their bosom a glorious belief that fills their hearts with the light of faith, and this light is reflected in every aspect of their lives. A Muslim person should be (an example of) the Koran among the people, just like the moral character of the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention). For this reason, a Muslim house, with its angles, furniture and layout, should express the Islam of its owner.

The Muslim house can be a simple hut or a graceful palace. In one or the other, there is pleasure, gratitude, satisfaction and a life in the shadows of the Qur’an and the Sunnah. Family members are happy, not because they have beautiful furniture or expensive accessories, but because happiness comes from their believing hearts and reassured souls. It is because they are satisfied with Allah, the Almighty, as their Lord, with Islam as a religion and with Muhammad, with Allah Allah alayhi wa Sallam (May Allah extol his mention) as their prophet and messenger.

The houses of the Prophet, salla Allahu alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), were a good model for an Islamic house. As small and modest as they may be, they were full of joy and satisfaction and remained the supreme ideal for the mans’ homes, may Allah be pleased with them, as well as all Muslims wishing to lay the foundation of a house after.

The houses of the Prophet, sallallaahu’alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), were established to obey and seek the satisfaction of Allah, the Almighty, thus representing the best example of the true Islamic home. Allah the Almighty says (meaning): {Then is one who laid the foundation of his building on righteousness [with fear] from Allah and [seeking] His approval better or one who laid the foundation of his building on the edge of a bank about to collapse, so it collapsed with him into the fire of Hell? And Allah does not guide the wrongdoing people.} [Quran 9:109]

Although the houses of the Prophet, sallallahuah’alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), are as humble and sufficient to satisfy his needs, as simple as to cover (the minimum requirements of) his life, they were full of things. happiness, where their inhabitants were satisfied with the fate and food that Allah, the Almighty, attributes to them, and believing in the declaration of the prophet, sallallahuahu alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention): He, upon whom morning comes while being safe and sound, healthy in his body, and having the sustenance of his day, seems as if the entire world has been granted for him.” [At-Tirmithi and Ibn Maajah]   The houses of the Prophet, sallallaahu’alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), were based on worship and obedience to Allah the Almighty, where humility, simplicity and abstinence from the pleasure of this worldly life seemed obvious. All his houses surrounded the mosque. Some of them were built of palm reeds covered with mud, others of stones piled one on top of the other, with their ceiling made of palm reeds.

The house of the mother of believers, ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, the most expensive of her women after Khadeejah, may Allah be pleased with her, consisted of a single room, built of covered bricks mud, another adjoining room, made of palm reeds, covered with animal hair. His door had a single wooden post and his ceiling was low, like all the other houses of the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention). There was simple furniture: a wooden bed tied with ropes of fiber, with a leather cushion stuffed with fibers; a skin of water; and vases of clay for his food and his ablutions.

Simplicity and contentment also seemed evident among the companions of the Messenger of Allah, sallallahuah’alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention). The furniture of Faatimah, may Allah be pleased with her, daughter of the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol her mention), with whom she was married to ‘Ali Ibn Abi Taalib, may Allah be pleased with he, composed of a velvet coat, a leather cushion stuffed with fibers, a millstone, a skin of water and two pots. It was the furniture of the chief of the women of paradise and the daughter of the master of all the prophets, may Allah exalt their mention. This shows how the houses of the Prophet, sallallahuah’alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), and his companions, may Allah be pleased with them, were a good model for the Islamic home.

If this is the state of the Prophet’s house, sallallahuah’alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), and his companions, may Allah be pleased with them, that does not mean that Islam prevents anyone to be blessed in a graceful way spacious home; on the contrary, according to Islam, it is a sustenance, a favor and a grace granted by Allah, the Almighty, to whom he wills. Allah the Almighty says (meaning): : {Say, “Who has forbidden the adornment of Allah which He has produced for His servants and the good [lawful] things of provision?”} [Quran 7:32

The Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), said,” Four things bring happiness: a just woman (ie a woman), a spacious residence, a good neighbor and a comfortable means of transport. “[Al-Haakim] Man must then use this pleasure in all that is good, for he will be held responsible on the day of judgment, as Allah the Almighty confirmed in the verse (meaning) : {Then you will certainly be asked that day about pleasure.} [Quran 102: 8]
Like other human beings, the Muslim family tends to have the best, the most spacious, the most beautiful and the richest homes. Allah the Almighty says (meaning): {Beautified for people is the love of that which they desire – of women and sons, heaped-up sums of gold and silver, fine branded horses, and cattle and tilled land. That is the enjoyment of worldly life, but Allah has with Him the best return.} [Quran 3:14]

. The Muslim family knows that the real happiness is to make the house, big or small, a garden full of faith, satisfied with contentment, shaded with tranquility and comfort; and for its members to adopt high morality and righteous conduct. He perceives that, whatever the state in which he finds himself, he lives in a favor granted by Allah, the Almighty, for whom we owe our gratitude. Gratitude for a favor develops, purifies and proliferates, as Allah confirms; Allah the Almighty (which means): {If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor].} [Quran 14: 7]

The Muslim family does not boast or show pride in others because of the favors of Allah, the Almighty, which has been granted to them. It always shows the rewards and favors conferred by Allah, the Almighty, in response to His statement (which means): {But concerning the favors of your Lord, let it be known.] [Quran 93: 11]

the declaration of the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention):” Indeed, Allah loves to see the signs of his favor on his slave. [At-Tirmithi and Al-Haakim]
But at the same time, the Muslim family should not indulge in worldly pleasures and neglect obedience to Allah, the Almighty, nor be concerned primarily with their homes in this mundane life, which distracts them from working for their house in paradise, Allah willing. In this sense, a poet refers by saying that there will be no residence after death other than the one he built before his death. If he built it well, his residence (in the afterlife) would be good; and if he built it with evil, he would fail.

Once, ‘Ali Ibn Abi Taalib, may Allah be pleased with him, passed by a man who was building a house, then said to him,’ You were dead before you became alive, and in a short time you will be dead [again]. You are building a house for the perishing residence [i.e. this worldly life], so build a house for the eternal dwelling [i.e. the afterlife too]. “

Blessed is the Muslim family if they want the world to be in their hands and not in their hearts; and blessed be he if he wants to use everything around him to help him obey Allah, the Almighty, acting according to the following wisdom: “Work for your worldly life as if you wanted to live forever, and work for your life. Below, as if you would die tomorrow. [Ibn Al-Mubaarak in Az-Zuhd]

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Talking about the Muslim house, its components and furniture does not mean that all these specifications must be included in every house. But, it is an ideal that we ask Allah, the Almighty, to give to every Muslim on the planet.

The main point is not so much in the walls and furniture of the house as in its inhabitants. Therefore, each family member could bring happiness and satisfaction to his household with the smallest thing at his disposal. The faithful believer is intelligent and cautious, as the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), said:” The shrewd is he who holds himself responsible [for his acts] and who works for [life after death; and the incompetent is the one who submits his self to his fantasies and hopes full of hope from Allah. “[Ahmad, At-Tirmithi and Ibn Maajah]

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