Islamic Manners

Call yourself to account

To have a hard heart: A widespread disease is that of the hard heart, the lazy and lethargic with regard to acts of worship. Many people reject the idea of ​​practicing acts of worship and postpone them to a later date, and that comes from the murmurings of Satan, so that we will end up not doing them at all.

In contrast to this, the Salafs could have pity on Allah who would rush to worship and use every opportunity that would be offered to him in this regard. They would prolong their acts of worship and perform them with humility and submission that we can not even begin to understand. Nowadays, if the person who leads the congregational prayer dares to recite a long chapter of the Qur’an during it, the people will not be able to tolerate it and protest. This reflects how much our hearts have corroded as a result of overeating, laughing, drinking, indulging in this mundane life and its pleasures and sins.

Do not call us accountable: Due to the excessive number of discussions and social encounters between people, we do not find the time to sit in isolation and hold ourselves accountable for what we have said or done . It’s a big loss indeed. Let’s compare it to an example of our just Salaf: Ibrahim At-Taymi, may Allah take pity on him, said, “I imagined myself in paradise eating its fruits, drinking from its rivers and enjoying his ladies. Then, I imagined myself in the heat of hell, eating its bitter and thorny fruits, drinking from its boiling pus and suffering from chains. Then I asked myself, “What is your wish?” The answer was: “I wish to return to earthly life to be able to perform more acts of virtue”. Then I said, “You are where you want to go, hurry up and do the things you want to do.”

Do not forbid evil: We can very often see the evil done before our eyes, while remaining silent and motionless, as if the limits and limits of Allah did not concern us at all. We know for sure that what is committed is forbidden, but we do not even think of changing the evil, let alone preventing it from happening. Abu Abdur-Rahmaan Al-Amri, may Allaah have mercy on him: “A sign of your indifference is to override a prohibition and not to try to stop it.”

One aspect of this is neglecting to forbid evil and encouraging good among our women and children, as well as not teaching them what they need to know about their religion and not cultivating it properly, while Allah says (what means): who believe! Protect yourself and your families from a fire whose fuel is made of people and stones, on which are placed angels [named], hard and severe … “[Quran 66: 6]

The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allaah exalt his mention) would go to the house of Faatimah and Ali, may Allah be pleased with them and wake them up to pray the optional night prayer, and not the obligation, as a way of teaching and training them. Note that it was after her daughter’s wedding and her life in her own home. Compare that to some modern day fathers who neglect the children and women who live with them under the same roof. Do we ever stop thinking about how careless we are in this regard? Do we ever be reproached and reproached for failing to fulfill our duty in this respect as it should?

Be indifferent: It is a deadly attitude that kills the Muslim community. A Muslim is called to play a positive role in his community and to help with virtue as much as he can and to prevent harm as much as he can. Many people go astray because they can not find anyone to help and save them, because those around them act indifferently. We must not undermine any contribution he may make in this regard; let us look at the history of the time when Imam Ahmad could have pity on Allah to see how effective a person could be if he took the initiative and did not act indifferently. When Imam Ahmad could have pity on Allah, a thief was with him in the same cell. The thief said to him, “Ah, ah! I persevere and tolerate the punishment I receive when I am against lying and punished for sin. Does anyone like you, who suffer because you are on the truth, do not persevere and persevere? “This thief has played an important role in comforting and comforting Imam Ahmad, may Allah have mercy on him and not take a negative attitude towards the problem.

To divert the serious effects of the temptation of women: for example, to undermine the forbidden gaze, not to adhere to the hijab (Islamic clothing for women), women wearing perfume before leaving their homes, the diffusion of immoral films, miscegenation between the two sexes, and other cases that have led people to commit sins and immorality. Nowadays, people mingle with the opposite sex in universities, schools and workplaces, while Yoonus bin ‘Ubayd could give him mercy: “Never isolate yourself with a woman, even if you want to teach him the Qur’an, and even if you are the one who recites. “

Being badly behaved: Many people have three very bad qualities, namely: lying, cowardice and greed, and these are the three worst qualities a person can possess. We must also be aware of many other perverse qualities, such as slander, blame others, and tell stories, while replacing them with laudable qualities and morals.

The Salafs may Allah be merciful to them would reprimand each word spoken, words that would be considered very normal by people today: Maalik bin Dhayghan, may Allah have mercy on him, said: “Rabaah bin Qays came to ask my father after the Asr prayer, but he slept, so we told him, about which he remarked, “Who would sleep at this hour of the day?” Then he left. We sent a man after him to see if he wanted us to wake up my father for him, but this man did not come back until the moment to pray the Maghreb. When we asked him why he had come back so late, he said: `I followed him to ask him, but I noticed that he was going to the cemetery while reproaching himself, saying: ‘Of what are you worried about asking this kind of question? Why do you ask what does not concern you? What is there for you when people go to sleep? People are free to sleep when they wish, why did you indulge in what does not concern you? … ” “[End of quote] Note how much such a question would be taken in our time, and how much he rebuked it himself for asking.

Cutting Relationships with Family Members: The most important parents are parents, yet we find that many people treat them inappropriately, or even sever ties with them. As for those who try to satisfy the needs of their parents, many do so reluctantly, while expressing their displeasure or complaining that it is a burden to them, while Allah orders us not to say the least expression of discontent in this regard. , saying (meaning): “… do not tell them [as long as] ‘Uff’, and do not repel them, but speak to them a noble word.” [Quran 17:23]

Huthayl bin Hafsah’s mother may Allah have mercy on him: “He would gather wood in the summer and peel off the outer layer of bark himself. Then, when winter comes, he will come to me while I pray, light a brazier (in my room) and put the peeled wood there, because that would not produce any harmful smoke. He would do it just to keep me warm during prayer. He would do it even if we had a servant who could do the job. Every time I thought of arresting him and ordering him to return to his family, I remembered why he was doing it and I let him go on. “[End of quote] Why did he do it himself when he had a servant who could have done it for him?

This type of nobility is not limited to parents; on the contrary, one should be kind to all his parents and even his fellow Muslims.

Losing time: The loss of time is a very important issue. We must pay attention to this and hold ourselves accountable, because we spend a lot of our time unnecessarily instead of passing it to acts of obedience to Allah, as it should be. Allah says (meaning): “And He created the night and the day in succession for whoever wants to remember or desires gratitude.” [25: 62]

Therefore, time has been created so that we can fill it with acts of obedience to Allah, but many people do exactly the opposite. The Salafs that Allah has mercy on them took great care to use every second of their time. Al-Hasan, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “I met people who were more stingy with their time than with their wealth.”

Nowadays, people are wasting their time playing games late in the evening, socializing, watching TV and talking in vain. They can even go so far at the expense of their religious obligations, such as their daily prayers, etc.

Waste of wealth: many men give in to the pressure of their wives and children and therefore spend too much, but when they are asked to spend money, they realize that they are so stingy that if they had to withdraw two bills of ten Riyal to pay into charity, we would invariably return in his pocket. However, if that same person had to go to the restaurant, he would have no problem spending multiples for that.

Allah will ask us questions about our wealth because we were informed as such by the Prophet Sallallahuah’alayhi wa Sallam (may Allah extol his mention). Abu Barzah, may Allah be pleased with him, reported: “The Messenger of Allah, sallallahuahu alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), said,” The feet of man will not move on the day of the resurrection how he consumed it, his knowledge and what he did with it, his wealth, how he won it and how he disposed of it, as well as his body and how he carried it. “[At-Tirmidhi]

It should not be understood here that there are no people who spend generously or that there are no people who correctly treat any of the above. What we wanted and wanted to say is that we need to remember these issues and hold ourselves accountable, because many of us do not.


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