Islamic Manners

Etiquettes of dialogue and speech -I

Islam has come to instill and spread good manners and noble labels. In a conversation or a discussion, a Muslim must maintain them, because Islam deals comprehensively with all aspects of life and requires that a Muslim be distinct in character, religion, worship, morals, labels and its appearance.

Without a doubt, Islam is the higher and higher religion. There is no doubt that its legislation is the last and the best of all revealed legislation.

This question is vital and should be kept in mind when talking to our Lord, talking to connoisseurs, talking to friends, talking to your spouse, or attending a public meeting. If manners and words of speech disappear, gatherings will become futile and fruitless, a source of enmity and hatred.

Keeping His Tongue: Allah commands us to keep our tongues and his messenger, sallallahuah’alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention) has warned us not to let them go.

Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, reported, “I heard the Prophet sallallahuah’alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention) saying, : “A person utters a word thoughtlessly (i.e., without thinking about whether it is good or evil) and as a result, will plummet into the fire of Hell deeper than the distance between the east and the west.”” [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]

Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, said that Prophet Sallallahuah’alayhi wa Sallam (may Allah extol his words) said: “A man may utter a word pleasing to Allah without considering it of any significance, but for which Allah elevates his ranks (in Paradise); another one may speak a word displeasing to Allah without considering it of any importance, but for which he would be plummeted into Hell.” [Al-Bukhari]

Bilaal Ibn Al-Haarith Al-Muzani, may Allah be pleased with him, said that the Messenger of Allah, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), said,” A man can say good say without knowing its value, for example. may Allah be pleased with him until the day he meets him; another man may utter a perverse word without realizing its importance, for which Allah will record his discontent until the day he meets him. “[Maalik & At-Tirmithi]

People often utter imprudent words, some of which may include or imply transgressing the boundaries of Islam. Such negative words may even relate to Allah, or an objection to His decree, or whatever, that would lead the person to utter them, to hellfire.

For this reason, when the Prophet Sallallahuah’alayhi wa Sallam (may Allah extol his mention) spoke to Mu’aathh, may Allah be pleased with him, he said to him, “The foundation of this case is Islam, its pillar (the pillar) is prayer and its climax is Jihaad (fighting for the cause of Allah). Then he sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam (may Allaah exalt his mention) asked, “Am I going to tell you what Mu’aath, may Allah be pleased with him, said,” Yes, messenger of Allah! “Then he sallallaahu` alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention) held his tongue between his fingers and said, “Hold this.” Muath, may Allah be pleased with him, asked, “O Messenger of Allah, ‘Allah! Will we really be accountable for what we say? “The Prophet Sallallahuah’alayhi wa Sallam (may Allah extol his words) exclaimed,” May your mother lose you! Most people will be projected on fire from hell because of their language. “[Ahmad & At-Tirmithi] The phrase,” May your mother lose you “is certainly not a supplication or a wish, as the Prophet sallallahuah’alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention) would never have pleaded with of his companions, but it is rather an idiom used by the Arabs to draw people’s attention to the importance of the following, which in this case was to highlight this abuse of the language is the base for the punishment of most people.

Statements of the Salaf concerning the control and protection of the language: many statements have been made in this regard, such as the words of Ibn Mas’ood, may Allah be pleased with him: “What requires the most imprisonment is his language. “[End of quote] That’s why many researchers have written books on the excellence of silence.

The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allaah exalt his mention) was silent most of the time and spoke only when absolutely necessary. He encouraged us to use nice words when we have to talk. `Adiyy Ibn Haatim, may Allah be pleased with him, said the Messenger of Allah, sallallahuahu alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), saying,” Allah will certainly speak to each of you without interpreter. He (that is to say, the one to whom we are talking) will turn to his right and see only the acts he has done, and turn to his left to see only the acts he has done. Then he will look ahead and find nothing but the hellish fire that faces him. So protect yourself from fire, even giving half a date to charity, and if you can not find it, then with a kind word. “[Al-Bukhari & Muslim] He sallallaahu` alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention) has thus clarified that kind words protect from hell and are therefore one of the main causes of entry to Paradise.

The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention) also said,” In paradise, there are rooms whose interior can be seen from outside and outside from inside. Allah has prepared them for those who offer food (to the needy), who speak softly, who often fast and who pray at night while people sleep. “[Al-Bayhaqi & Al-Haakim]

The Labels of Dialogue and Speech: There are many labels that Islam has legislated and encouraged, which reflect the breadth of this topic. Here are some of these labels:

· Lowering the voice: Allah says (meaning): “… and lower your voice; indeed, the most unpleasant sound is the voice of the donkeys. “[Quran 31:19] Raising one’s voice testifies to a lack of manners, unless the need arises, for example when delivering a Khutbah, a warning to someone, a teaching, or when it is feared that those who are far away can not hear, on the other hand, the voice should not be so low that people can hardly hear it, nor should it be monotonous, because it generates boredom of those who listen, which can cause them to lose interest.

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• Excessive Speech and Insult to Others: Jaabir, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that the Messenger of Allaah, sallallahuahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention), said:” The most expensive and the closest of you on the day of the resurrection will be the one with the best of manners; and the most abominable of you, and the farthest from you (that day) will be the offensive (that is, the speech), the talkative, and the Mutafayhiqoon. His companions asked him, “O messenger of Allah! We know about the offensive and scoffers, but we do not know who the Mutafayhiqoon are. ” He sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention) replied:” (They are) those who are arrogant when they speak. -Tirmithi] This is a harsh warning not to seem arrogant or talk to people with words they do not understand to demonstrate that one is competent or eloquent.

· Listen carefully to others: this is particularly the case when the Qur’an is recited; Allah says (meaning): “So when the Qur’an is recited, then listen to it and be careful that you may receive mercy.” [Quran 7: 204] The most worthy person to be listened to was the Prophet sallallahuahayhi alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention) and when his companions practically applied it, they attained a high standard of manners and glorified the Prophet sallallahuahu alayhi wa sallam (may Allah extol his mention) with his glory. In fact, Allah has commanded believers to lower his voice in his presence, as he says (meaning): “O you who have believed! Do not raise the voice above the voice of the prophet and do not express the tone of the word, as if some of you spoke loudly to others, lest your actions be worthless until you realize it not. “[49: 2] death, lowering the voice when his prophetic narratives are linked. .

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