The reward of good husbands and fathers

. In the name of Allah, the most merciful, the most merciful

Allah says in the glorious Koran:

“And live with them in a beautiful way. If you do not like it, you may know that you do not like something for which Allah has created abundant goodness (al-Qur’an 4:19).

The Prophet (may Allah bless him and give him peace) said:

The believer who has the most perfect faith is the one who has the best character and the one who is the most kind with his wife (Sahih Muslim).

The Prophet (may Allah bless him and give him peace) said:

The believer should not harbor hatred towards his wife. If he does not love something in it, then he will surely be satisfied with another quality in it (Sahih Muslim).

Sheikh Asharaf Ali Thanwi commented on the verse above:

“Brothers, when Allah has ordained these rights for women, then who can change them?

If a man lacks these rights, he will be guilty of not enforcing the rights of creation. The man should reflect on how Allah interceded for women in the verse above.

Although there may be many reasons not to love his wife, the main reason is usually a bad character that becomes a source of grief for the husband.

Nevertheless, Allah has promised that even this bad character could become a means of attaining good – for he is wise and able to do everything. For example, she could give you birth to children who will become the means of your salvation, qiyamah. Just think about how women’s rights are clearly highlighted in the Quranic verse above. “

The Prophet (may Allah bless him and give him peace) said:

The best of you is the best to his wife. I am the best of you for his wife (Tirmidhi, Darimi).

‘A’isha (may Allah be pleased with her) relates that a desert Arab spoke to the Prophet (Allah blessed him and granted him peace) and remarked:

“Do you kiss your children because we do not do it?” The Prophet (Allah bless him and grant him peace) replied: “What can I do if Allah has put the mercy of your heart?” (Sahih al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Anas (May Allah be pleased with him) says that the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) said:

“Whoever raises and feeds two young girls until maturity will appear on Judgment Day in such a state that he and I will be like that (and he clasped his fingers).” [(Sahih Muslim)]

It is easy to understand from here how Islam has given so many incentives to the actions necessary to maintain society.

The spiritual care of his family

Moreover, just as it is necessary and rewarding to look after the physical and monetary needs of the family, it is even more important and rewarding to look after their spiritual development (ruhani).

Allah says in the glorious Koran:

“O people of faith, save yourself and your families from the fire of hell.” (Al-Quran66: 6)

Similarly, the rewards for a woman are also many if she interacts well with her husband.

The Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) said in a hadith related by Umm Salama (may Allah be pleased with him):

“Every woman who dies with her satisfied husband will enter paradise.” (Sunan al-Tirmidhi)

The Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) said in a hadith related by Anas radhiyallahu anhu:
“If a woman performs her five prayers, fasting the month of Ramadan, protecting herself from immorality and obeying her husband, she will enter paradise through the door of her choice.” (Hilya)

It is very rewarding to treat all of Allah’s creation with gentleness and kindness. This reward (with responsibility) increases only when their kinship and closeness are close. This makes the person a complete believer and is rewarded in this life and the afterlife.

Most of the above information was collected in Ashraf Marriage Tips available on and in the Mishkat al-Masabih, the great collection of Hadiths of Allama Tabrizi in Arabic.

This is just a sample of the richness of our rich heritage left by our pious predecessors. Other works on marriage and relevant chapters in Hadith books such as Riyadh al-Salihin (translated) and Imam Bukhari’s al-Adab al-Mufrad (translated) are available for further information.

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