Dua For asking forgiveness for yourself and anyone who enters your house In Arabic
رَّبِّ اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَلِمَن دَخَلَ بَيْتِيَ مُؤْمِنًا وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ وَلَا تَزِدِ الظَّالِمِينَ إِلَّا تَبَارًا
Dua For asking forgiveness for yourself and anyone who enters your house In English Transcription
Rabbi ighfir lee waliwalidayyawaliman dakhala baytiya mu’minan walil mu’mineena wal mu’minati wala tazidi aththalimeena illatabaran
Dua For asking forgiveness for yourself and anyone who enters your house In English
My Lord, forgive me and my parents and whoever enters my house a believer and the believing men and believing women. And do not increase the wrongdoers except in destruction.
Surah Nooh – 71:28
Read this if there is something you can not forgive yourself
We all like to separate properly virtues and vices.
We like to think of our depravities as independent agents – acting in a haphazard way and coming together against our best judgment. When we fail, we point our fingers toward our vices. When we hurt someone, we say we are going to change.
We like to create these internal dichotomies because they make us blame someone when we are wrong. Our true beings are our good ones, our moral ones, the third versions of ourselves who recognize that what we did was bad. We criticize every part of ourselves for giving up our vices and leaving our virtues dormant. We tell ourselves that we should have known better.
None of us wants to admit that there are moments in our lives where our virtues and vices are totally indistinguishable from each other – but the uncomfortable truth is that there are some. The same hunger, the same curiosity and the same enthusiasm that inspires all our greatest achievements also push us towards our greatest mistakes. The same love and compassion that makes us the brightest and most generous versions of ourselves also make us the most miserable and unforgivable versions. We can never cut the evil properly from ourselves. It is woven into everything we do.
And it is perhaps for these morally ambiguous situations that we find it most difficult to forgive ourselves. When we can not separate our good parts from our bad parts, we are paralyzed by indecision. We believe that we are helping people around us by holding our unstable inner being hostage, but the truth is that it is an interested process. We do not want to accept what we have done and remain angry with ourselves for disconnecting from it. I did not do it, we tell ourselves, a horrible and distorted version of me did it. We are angry at this part of ourselves, in a strangely disconnected way. We let ourselves believe that we could detach ourselves so carefully from who we were. Except we can not. And here is the uncomfortable truth:
You did something shit. Something is wrong. Something that every pure and well-meaning part of you wishes to be able to take back and correct.
Except you can not. Sometimes in life, there is no second chance.
And it’s okay. It’s good because it has to be.
The truth is that if you are a good person or a bad person is simply a story that you tell yourself.
You are no longer the person who did the horrible things you did in your past – the mere fact that you were responsible for them is a clear indication. But what you are now is afraid – that the person who has emerged in you before can and will reappear again. That they will oblige you again. You resume again. Chase your life and your choices as they did once before.
And that’s the story you have to stop telling yourself, because this story is a self-fulfilling prophecy. This story is mud on your shoes that you will hang out in all those you love until the day you decide to clean yourself. By refusing to forgive you, you tell a story about shame and obliteration, so many times that it becomes the only one you know how to play. It becomes the story you introduce in the future, rather than the one you peacefully lay down to rest where it is.
The real reason you have to choose forgiveness is that it is the only selfless thing left to do. By hiding you from all your darkness, you deny the world of your light. From Your Virtue Parts of yourself that are able to come back to life to restore the joy and hope needed as a result of your greatest mistakes.
When you allow yourself to accept all these perverse and unfathomable parts of yourself, you simultaneously offer yourself the opportunity to evolve beyond them. To overcome them. Accept the fact that you may never be the most virtuous person you thought to be yourself, but the death of this idealistic self gives birth to a more realistic and capable man.
He who knows the capacity of light and darkness.
