Dua Forgiveness for your parents and all Muslims In Arabic – 1
رَبَّنَا اغْفِرْ لِي وَلِوَالِدَيَّ وَلِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَوْمَ يَقُومُ الْحِسَابُ
Dua Forgiveness for your parents and all Muslims In English Transcription – 1
Rabbana ghfir li wa li wallidayya wa lil Mu’mineena yawma yaqumul hisaab
Dua Forgiveness for your parents and all Muslims In English – 1
O our Lord! Cover (us) with Thy Forgiveness – me, my parents, and (all) Believers, on the Day that the Reckoning will be established!
Surah Ibraheem – 14:41
How to Help Your Parents to Forgive You
It is inevitable that you will harm others occasionally, usually not intentionally. These transgressions can lead to great guilt and shame, especially when you have hurt people you care about, such as your parents. Your guilt and shame, as well as your parents’ anger and disappointment, can seriously affect your relationship. By helping your parents forgive you, you will improve your relationship and reduce the negative feelings that you and your parents will experience. [1]
Method One of Three:
Communicating Effectively
1- Listen more than you talk. Your parents will be able to forgive you more easily if they feel heard and understood.
Silence and listening can stop arguments and reduce emotional intensity. Watching your parents without saying anything while they talk will probably annoy them. You must tilt your head and display the appropriate expressions so that they know that you are listening and not disabling them.
Ask questions to clarify and verify your understanding. This will demonstrate that you are treating what they are telling you.
For example, you might say something like, “I hear you say you’re angry to stay out of curfew without informing you.
” Is that right?
2- Communicate entire messages. When it’s time to speak, use the whole message form to avoid misunderstandings. Begin your statement with an observation of the facts.
This is usually a description of a behavior. Then explain what you interpret as behavior and how you feel.
You should finish with what you would like to do to focus the discussion on the resolution [2].
For example, “I dropped out of school to hang out with friends. I knew it was a mistake, but it felt like it would make me look cool.
I was scared and would like help finding good ways to resist peer pressure to better deal with this kind of situation in the future. “
3 – Be attentive to your tone. Your feelings about what your parents or situation may affect your communication. The same phrase in different tones can mean very different things. Feelings of frustration can lead to a sarcastic tone or screams before you even realize it [3]. Try to stay objective and focus on communicating your message rather than your emotion.
If your parents are commenting on your tone, excuse yourself and explain your frustration by trying to communicate your message clearly.
Method Two of Three:
Acknowledging your Mistakes
1 – Admit your wrongdoing. You can not believe that your behavior was completely wrong, so instead of looking at the big picture, focus on specific aspects. You may not have done everything wrong, but it is unlikely that you did everything right. Find Areas for Improvement and Hold Your parents will appreciate your ability to admit that you are mistaken as a sign of maturity. This will help them forgive you faster.
Do not discuss the fault and do not try to deny wrongdoing. Your parents may consider this immature and take even longer to forgive you.
2 – Apologize to your parents and others you may have hurt. Showing remorse is important to help anyone to forgive. When you make excuses, acknowledge the hurtful behavior, why it was wrong and how it affected others [4].
This will demonstrate that you understand what you have done wrong and validate your parents’ feelings.
Try to structure the excuses by first indicating the effects of your behavior. It will show others that you have the most remorse for hurting them.
For example, “I’m sorry to worry and disappoint you by sneaking in.
My behavior was irresponsible and inconsiderate, I assure you it will not happen again.
” Always be sincere when you apologize. A sincere apology will probably be interpreted as sarcasm and worsen the situation.
If you have a personal apology, try writing it in a letter.
3 – Make amends whenever possible. Make a real effort to compensate the offended parties. Depending on what has happened, this may not be possible, but an attempt in good faith is usually enough to buy considerable goodwill with the parents.
You might consider reducing your debts or providing physical work to help restore damaged property.
Method Three of Three:
Planning to Behave More Responsibly
1- Identify ways to respond more appropriately in future situations. Parents may have trouble forgiving because they are afraid to make the same mistakes. By demonstrating that you have learned from your mistakes and developing ways to avoid repeating them, you will help your parents get rid of the past.
If you have trouble finding more appropriate answers, ask your parents to help you. They will understand that you are making efforts to improve yourself, and this is another opportunity to make them feel that they are being heard.
2 – Get involved in activities that are incompatible with your parents’ behavior. Show them that you are responsible by studying to earn good grades or getting a job. Remind them how great you are by taking on a leadership role at school or in the community. Get involved in activities they would be proud to talk to and reduce their concerns about how you spend your time. Parents forgive more quickly when they can focus on your new achievements rather than their past failures.
Remember to volunteer to serve other members of your community so that they are truly proud. You can find a lot of volunteer opportunities online.
3 – Talk to your parents about your future goals. Help them forgive you by diverting them from your past behavior and focusing on future possibilities. Set goals for 6 months, 2 years and 5 years from now, with action plans to reach them.
Your goals at 6 months should be reasonable. Set goals for improving your grades, saving money and / or improving your physical and mental health.
Your goals over 2 and 5 years must be complex, but achievable. A good example might be higher education.
